I'm In! 30 Days of Black Women and Sexual Empowerment for NaBloPoMo

Feeling fly in my witch hat.
Am I a good witch or a bad witch? If you're
good to me, I'm good to you.
Photo by Jenee Darden

So here's my story. I'm passionate about black female sexuality. It's not necessary the act of sex (although I'm passionate about pleasure), but the politics, culture and expressions of black female sexuality. Since 2000, when I first started reading black erotic literature, I have been researching and observing how black women define their sexuality outside of racist and sexist definitions imposed upon us. I did my undergraduate and graduate theses on this issue as it relates to black erotic literature. Check it out here.

Why am I so fascinated with this topic? Well, I'm a black woman and I get frustrated with the way mainstream media misrepresents us. If we're not hypersexualized from the time we're babies (Billboard was wrong for that tweet about North West), then we're perceived as undesirable. And while black female sexuality has a dark history, dating back to the sexual abuse and exploitation during slavery, we still have much to celebrate. Just as we are diverse in skin shades of black and brown, the spectrum of black female sexual expression is wide.

I'm honoring this beautiful spectrum through Cocoa Fly's Black Women and Sexual Empowerment Series. Each day for the month of November, I'm featuring a black woman for her sexual expression. Some women you've heard of. Some you haven't heard of but should know. Some women you love. Some women you can't stand. Depending on the what's going on in the world and my mood, I may blog about an issue related to black female sexuality. Expect a multimedia blend of videos, podcasts and writings. This is all part of NaBloPoMo, or National Blog Posting Month for BlogHer.

My dream is to write a book about black erotic literature, but I have to build my following. As I work on making that dream a reality, PLEASE follow me. I'm on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. All are @cocoafly. The hashtag is #BlackWomenSexuality. And PLEASE share my posts.


Oh, if you're wondering what's up with the hat, I was a witch for Halloween. The lipstick color Saffron from Iman Cosmetics brought out the meow in me. People say women use Halloween as an excuse to dress sexy. I don't think every costume needs to be sexualized (Sexy carrot--for real?). However, if a woman wants to wear a sexy costume that's her business. And if she chooses to wear a less revealing costume, that's her business. I chose sexy for Halloween. I chose a t-shirt and leggings to type this post.

I look forward to you joining me in this 30-day celebration of black female sexuality. It's going to be fun!