Jenee Darden speaking at Creative Mornings I know it's been a while since I've posted anything but that's because of my job. I'm working as a reporter covering Oakland and I host an arts segment on the radio where I get to interview amazing artists from around the Bay Area. Plus I'm publicizing my book and building my speaking career! You know what's funny? I thought this would all happen by the time I was 27-30. Nope. That wasn't God's plan for me. I'm finally beginning to do the things I've wanted to do and I'm almost 40 years old. Some people reading this who are 40 will say 40 is still young. But some younger people reading may think 40 is nearly ancient. But I'm writing this post for those who like me, thought their career and personal dreams would come true much early in life. I'm here to tell you not to give up. You know, death inspires life. A number of my relatives and friends have passed away, ranging in
Macy Gray Sings Her Heart Out to Her Vibrator B.O.B. and Encourages Women to Self-Pleasure
With all of the crazy, evil stuff going on in the world, I
needed this laugh. Yes, singer Macy Gray made a love song about her Battery
Operated Boyfriend or BOB.
In this cheesy, adorable, cartoon music video that carries a
lot of truth, she tells us what makes B.O.B. so great.
He gets me so excited.
I turn him on. We go baby GO.
Start the fire and
lightening, oooh ahhh oooh
I love my baby BOB…
He can go all night
Dark until the night
And we stop when I
want to
I understand why she adores BOB and released a cartoon video
with happy BOBs of different colors and batteries frolicking through her
bedroom.
The song is catchy and the video is entertaining. Another
reason why I like it is because it’s about masturbation. And a lot of women are
uncomfortable talking about masturbation. Men are more open to talking about it
than women. Macy Gray told Elle magazine, “I hope it opens women up to talk about what's really real
for them. Women always have to be so private about [their sexuality] and their
periods, whereas guys can just talk about their penises and whatever. Girls
always have to be so ladylike about it. I hope girls can start talking...and
just say the crudest stuff.
I feel her,and I
would also argue that women talking about masturbation or periods doesn’t even
have to be crude. It can just be what it is. If you want to be crude about it,
do you.
Self-pleasuring is healthy and it’s the safest form of sex
you can have. Masturbation releases stress and
anxiety. There are also studies that show women who do their “one-woman shows”
have higher self-esteem and a more active sex life. You can read more about this
at Women’s Health Magazine.
When I co-presented a workshop to women on pleasure after
trauma, there were women in the room who had never masturbated. And some women
said they were heading to Good Vibrations right after the workshop (Good Vibrations gave us a discount
code for attendees). Some of these women were in their golden years and had never gave themselves pleasure. I hope they found a new friend in B.O.B.
***Macy Gray joins a list of other women artist who have sang
praises for self-love, including:
Tweet featuring Missy Elliot “Oops (Oh My)
T-Boz Touch Myself
Cynic Lauper, “She Bop”
Britney Spears “Touch of My Hand”
Janet Jackson made some kinky sounds on an intermission on The
Velvet Rope album that strongly implied masturbation
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